Here we go!!! (weaning)

I finally made the decision that it’s time to get my toddler off the breasts! I’m ready and he has no choice but to be ready. Today is Tuesday June 6th 2017 and so far he’s done well. He woke up next to his grandmother and she said he slept perfectly. When he did wake up looking for his milk, she gave him water and he went right back to sleep. I was so pleased to hear about that.

He’s already tried to pull my shirt and tug me down but I’ve held my own! He’s attempted to whine at me but I’ve just said “NO!”

My fear with weaning off my son was because I didn’t know if he’ll take his Aptamil anymore or even cow milk. He hasn’t been drinking it because he’s breastfeeding but I’ve made two bottles and he’s drank the first one so that’s a good sign.

Wish me good luck Mom’s – it’s soooo hard and my breasts are quite sore also but it’s normal. In a few days I will have passed this test, I hope and all is done and dusted (till the next one lol)

What to read… 📚

My son is only 1 year and 3 months and he’s already taken interest in books! I’m so happy about this. Reading is so important because it expands the mind and the earlier the better.

When my son is ready for reading time, he’ll go to his book area choose his desired choice and bring it to me. He’ll make a small noise “ehhh” which means in his toddler language “read to me” and I do without hesitation. I love the fact that he’s attentive and he enjoyed turning the pages on his own. He’s even started recognizing shapes or animals or things I might say and he’ll follow with an action for example “where are babies hands?” And he’ll start clapping 🙂

Here are a list of books I recommend that my son loves.

– “Where is babies belly button” (flap book) *His favorite*
– Sing and Squeak bath book (sound book)
– Good morning, Good night (a touch and feel bedtime book) *His second favorite*
– My favorite nursery rhymes box set (4 books)
– Baby’s first book of prayers *My favorite*

His flap book is his favorite because he loves lifting the pages and I’ve recently ordered a few more by the author Karen Katz. Definitely look into. My son’s first prayer book is great because it’s a compilation of lovely prayers which rhyme. He actually enjoys when I read them to him and he’s getting blessed at the same time so I’m all for it. The pages consist of pictures too so I also point and teach him different things which he remembers more and more.

Knowledge is power and the earlier we get these children on the right path the better. I’m all for the tv cartoons as I’ve mentioned before in one of my previous blogs but don’t miss the signs parents. If your child brings you the book, read it and if they want you to read it again, do it, period. My son likes to hear and see the pages turn several times before he’s done and I don’t rush him. I’m excited to order new books for him every so often and you should as well mom and dad.

Cheers to happy reading 📚

 

Handful & Handsome

I haven’t even reached “Troublesome two’s” and my son is sooooo much work sometimes I can’t even believe how papa bear and I are doing it.

These children really have a mind of their own, of course they do though… it’s development right before our eyes every single day which I do love HOWEVER, my son actually knows how to test us.

When I tell my son “NO” he smiles and after the third “NO” he’ll stop whatever it is he’s doing. When his father says “NO” he does what his father is having a hard time with, he screams at the top of his lungs in his high-pitched toddler voice. I can’t believe it when I hear it! That scream will drive anyone off the wall, my motherly ears have become used to it but it is annoying especially when we are out in public. Our son and this scream go hand in hand even his Aunty Geraldine (my elder sister) has experienced it and she’s in for more improved scream than the last one she heard lol

I can’t believe this small boy knows exactly what he is doing. As a parents we know children love to throw things down especially from their high chair. They keep on doing this because they are so fascinated with the drop and the noise and the parent reaction. They just don’t stop but what can I do, it’s worse when it’s feeding time. My son likes to eat by himself now which is great, he uses his hands and shoves as much food in his mouth as he can but the mess!!!! Golly-gosh it’s a whole lot of work. Of course a toddler can’t eat clean just yet but sometimes he takes his toy throwing technique and uses it with his food. He’ll throw it down and eat and laugh and play and then he’ll throw the whole bowl down when he’s done and will scream or make some loud gesture in order for me to take him out of his high chair.

Another frustrating thing my son does is jump on the couch 😡 Sometimes I wish I could remove our whole couch all together, I blame his father for this. When he was learning how to stand papa bear would put him on the couch for a few second then put him down but now that he’s fully mobile omgoodness – it’s like a nightmare accident waiting to happen. Our son will climb the couch, stand up and bounce on it… I’m always so frantic with this. He seems to know what he’s doing and he seems to know  The wooden floor is but he just won’t stop jumping, even when I say get down! It’s enough!… He just keeps on going and once again smiles and laughs.

Nobody can tell me these kids don’t know what they are doing. They know very dang well with their cheeky smiles.

the list can go on and I’m sure other parents can relate to some of Jaden’s traits and other ones.

With all these different things he does, my son is adorable  and cute and handsome and it makes it so hard to discipline him at times because he’s mastered his puppy eyes and crocodile tears which still get to me. He knows how to pull out the water works in seconds and I feel bad but discipline is more than necessary because all though he’s still developing as a parent you have to let your children know who is the boss. As papa bear says, our son is a “noise maker.” He always wants to be heard one way or the other but I’m sure this is normal.

Having a child, I’ve mastered patients more than I ever have but It’s constant progress, I tell this to papa bear too but men and women (Mom’s and dad’s) are totally different. Women can put up with way more in my own opinion, at least at this young age. What matters is that not only  One parent is bad, but both have “bad and good cop” moments.

All I know is that I’m bracing myself for chapter two aka troublesome two’s and in the words of Game of Thrones, “winter is coming”

Walking?! You mean RUNNING…

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Now that my son has turned 1 years old, papa bear and I have stepped into a whole new world of craziness.

It’s exciting to see your child take their first steps from the beginning but once they start walking properly THERE’s NO SLOWING DOWN.

My son walks so fast, he bumps into things and he doesn’t know how to stop when he’s all excited and ready to play. He follows us around like a bee to a flower. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy because he’s doing what any one year old should be doing but it’s actually unbelievable.

In my opinion, the pros of your child walking mean that you don’t have to carry them everywhere (sometimes I forget, then I’m like “oh yeah”) it’s all great because you get to see how they use walking to climb and reach things. My son has a fisher price bike and the other day I caught him riding it and then standing on it… for the toddlers themselves per usual, they enjoy exploring everything. Knowing that your child is walking also means their skills are evolving and from the teeny baby that they were 1 year before I almost can’t believe it. With the waking comes the talking and so on and so forth.

Although as parents we know that the toddler “exploration” is part of what we have to go throug, this can also be a con.

My son is in more places he shouldn’t than ever before 😫 I need to invest in double protection just keep him safe. It’s a lot of work, double the work with a walking child. Going out in public is hard too especially when he’s ready to roam about. I’m quite open to him running around because I keep my eyes on him constantly, But chasing him back-and-forth that’s totally exhausting! And it’s also annoying because sometimes when he doesn’t feel like walking, he begins to crawl and we are in public so some places are not for a child’s hands.

I am happy that my son has reached his toddler ways, but I’m definitely looking forward to when I can tell him to stop, sit down or even stay and he will completely understand. That will be soon enough because I talk to my son with a normal voice, I don’t do the baby talk and he definitely understands me when I tell him certain things like go and come and of course other words so in time he will understand the concept of stay and sit still and don’t move.

As this year unfolds, I know there are so many things to look forward to and as every day passes by, more development is on the way for this toddler of mine.

I just wonder what is next but I am ready. So bring it on!!!

 

 

 

 

 

Milestone ONE

I did it! We did it. Papa bear and I made it one year as parents to our amazing son. What a journey it’s been. Just reflecting back to the hospital room waiting for little man J to arrive to now, wow!!!!

Our son is still smiling, dancing, no longer eating his baby food but table food & he is walking. Having all this happen right before my eyes is amazing. He knows how to copy everything I do with one look, he knows how to clap and find his little nose and even put his hands up in the air. It’s so many different things I’m just thankful I’m doing a good job. (Yes! I will pat myself of the back) motherhood is no small task.

This has been one heck of a year and I look forward to Jaden’s greater development as time continues on. In no time sentences will be forming and I look forward to having mother and son conversations. I’ve got his learning flash card all ready. This is the sponge stage after all and it’s important to take full advantage of that whether its learning new words, numbers or even languages.

To think my baby boy is no longer a baby but a toddler!!!! (Of course, he’ll always be my baby 🙂

Quick advice I have for new “newborn” mothers & fathers just as I once was a year ago:

– DON’T FREAK OUT! You got this MOM and you can do it DAD. Enjoy the experience and enjoy your baby because they really do grow up fast. Since my son has started walking everything has become more challenging already because he’s more curious than ever and he doesn’t know how to walk slow but is ready to take off like Usain Bolt every minute 😅

– As I’ve said in some of my earlier blogs, it takes time to get your “groove” back but it will come. As mothers, our bodies might change but that doesn’t mean you should love your body less.
– Rekindle the love. This might take time because your newborn baby takes up all the time you have and you might not feel attractive which happens often in the beginning but don’t worry, eventually you will get routinely great at things and you and your partner will be able to spend quality time together once again (very important)
– Lastly, let your baby do them. Don’t compare your child’s development to another. Every single child is different & you will run yourself mad if you start wondering “why this child is doing that and my child is not.” Let them take their milestones when they are ready and you’ll be so excited seeing their first laugh, tooth, crawl, walk etc.

I thank God for giving me more patience, learning and understanding more than I have ever had in my life. I thank God for Jaden’s amazing father for being supportive 24/7 and of course I thank Him for our son Jaden. This little boy has brought so much pride and joy not only to us but to so many others who he has made smile from friends, family and strangers.

Motherhood is amazing and I wouldn’t give it up for anything ❤️

My childhood to yours

I remember having a great childhood. I did so many fun things. I used to play outside and ride my bike and climb trees and just found adventure in everything I did whether dirt or water. I was lucky enough to travel to different amazing places with my family and friends from cold to hot and just remembering everything makes me feel happy and blessed at the same time.

Now that I’m a mother, there’s nothing better than sharing as many of my own childhood memories with my son the best way I can. It’s so surreal. I take pleasure in seeing him enjoy his new surroundings and taking great pictures to show him as he gets older. I definitely have a world traveler baby… but why not?! I’m taking full advantage of him sitting on my lap and paying hardly anything for a ticket… soon those days are over and it’ll be full price from there lol

I believe it’s very important to leave our children with a happy lomg-lasting memories. We live in a world now that is so technology based, I feel that many children don’t to take enough advantage of their surroundings.

There are so many things they can do but get locked up with “Disney channel” I had an article about how my son does watch “word party” but it’s educational and I make sure he also has as much play time as possible. I recently found an indoor playground called “Hippohop Atlanta” it’s amazing, fun, environmental friendly and the minute I took my son there he felt so free and happy and he could interact with other children which is great to see. All of these moments counts.

As the babies grow to toddlers and toddlers to young children to teenagers, finding ways to entertain them OUTSIDE OR CREATIVELY is a must. It Doesn’t matter how simple it is as long as it gets their minds and memories going that’s the key.

 
– Face painting
– Water and hose
– Racing
– Building
– Swimming
– Hiking
– Visiting museums
– Botanical gardens
– Traveling
Etc….

The list could go on Forever.

My elder sisters and I along with my cousins and close friends used  to have a blast doing all sorts of things together. I especially remember us riding our bikes and scooters and getting in to “kid trouble” lol whatever we did…  it shaped us in someways later in life because we all are good with people and we all have great friends and I believe can make friends fairly easy.

All of this wouldn’t be if we were children stuck inside playing on our game boys all day long and watching Tv. We definitely had our Tv time watching Cartoon Network and other great shows back then but it wasn’t a constant thing. We all loved going outside.

I’ll make it my mission that my son enjoys his very own childhood the best way I can.

Mother VS Grandmother

It’s no surprise that our babies will make us women want to be the best at everything we do for them. It’s natural instinct that allows us to nurture the right way as if we knew how to be a parent already (which we don’t)

It’s funny how grandmothers always seem to have the magic touch for everything baby. Did you notice that ?!

It’s like there’s a grandmother handbook. it’s filled with tips and tricks and advice you may want to hear and opinions you may not. Of course they are experienced because most of the time they’ve done the baby thing years ago and know how to handle certain things but isn’t it just amazing how that actually works.

In my case, my son is attached to my hip. Recently my elder sister and her man looked after him while I enjoyed a much needed night out and she told me that getting Jaden to sleep was extremely difficult because he wanted his breastmilk and mommy… mommy was nowhere to be found. Eventually he did get some sleep but it made me think the next day as she told me how difficult he was…how on earth does Jaden’s grandma & all the other grandmothers of the world do it????

I’ve gone out plenty of times and I’ve even left Jaden to go on a three day mommy-cation & from her point of view she was just like “he’s fine, he’s slept, he’s not crying or fussy.” hmmmmmm okay that’s great to hear BUT what on earth is GRANDMA doing that SISTER is not doing? that’s why I’m convinced there’s a grandmother handbook. It’s probably a secret book only available for all grandmothers lol

What I think is that with all the experience they have had in the past with countless of children, the babies themselves sense that. They sense a trust that they have with their own mothers. (Don’t worry sister 😉 I trust you with all my heart) …

They know subconsciously that this grandma is my best friend after mommy because all grandmothers spoil their grandchildren so the children are on their best behavior. Again, that’s my own personal opinion but it’s fascinating to me.

I’ve seen it with my own eyes the way Jaden’s grandmother cares for him, feeds him and bathes him… as if it was her first son. Do I take the tips she gives me yes I do but sometimes there is a line that should be drawn where the mother should be encouraged and not judged because she doing certain things her own way. After all, practice makes perfect.

This was one of struggles in the beginning. I felt like I’m was doing my best and wasn’t getting enough praises for it by Jaden’s grandmother. It was always (do it this way and do it that way) and it should have more (well done, good job) remembering this time makes me also wonder to myself why as a new mother do we seek validation from our mothers so deeply?! maybe it’s because hearing you’re doing a good job can go along way or maybe it’s because deep down, you’ve been parenting me and now I’m the parent and I need to know that I’m parenting correctly but it’s a loop whole because there is no straight line to perfect parenting.

As long as are children get educated book smart and “street smart” I believe it’s a job well done in the long run.

All in all, we just have to be thankful for our children’s grandmothers. We might not always see eye to eye but the advice is meaningful and if our little babies can feel so comfortable with how they are around them, as mothers we have to have that same confidence.