Time & Two

I can’t belive I have two children. It’s the most surreal thing before my eyes. One minute I’m pregnant with my first and TIME happens. The baby is born and he grows up to be his own little person. Next minute I’m pregnant with another and TIME let’s me realize “girl, you got two kids now.” … I was just pregnant, how is it that my baby girl is about to be two months old in 3 days! I mean WHAT, WHEN & HOW!

Time really does go by fast and you have to embrace every moment of it because it also waits for no one. I’m so grateful for my children, they have both shown me I can be a woman that I never knew.

My son Jaden is really the best big brother. He’s so caring of his little sister and he loves helping me help her which is so important. The only time he’s jealous is if he’s tired and I’m carrying her and he wants to be carried, otherwise he’s fantastic. Amongst him embracing that he’s not an only child anymore, he’s been doing some growing of his own. He speaks full proper sentences. He’s organized with his toys (even if the whole place looks scattered) he knows how to say “Please, Thank you and Sorry” (There’s an interesting “sorry” blog to come featuring his grandpa later this month) … he knows colors, he loves to read, he appreciates his classmates… the list goes on and on. I’m so proud of my boy and in two short amazing years this has all happened so I can only imagine what is to come. TIME will tell.

My little girl with her sweet angelic face, eyes barely open to open bat 🦇 eyes throughout the day and especially at night. She loves to smile, she’s extremely alert and she on the way with her motor skills in no time. She has amazing control with her head lifting up and she certainly knows how to kick a blanket off in a jiffy 😆 she’s growing so fast and I can’t wait till both of them are in motion because I know how much fun they will have together. She loves her milk and she drinks so much without missing a meal, she herself is ready to be a big girl! Already in size 1 diapers and 3 month old clothes TIME again is waiting for no one.

Seeing all these changes week by week, month by month & year by year, I’m just overwhelmed with gladness. There is so much in store for my children and for me as a mother.

Hello Baby.

She’s here! My sweet baby girl is finally here. 

I can’t believe I finally made it to the finish line! Such an exciting moment. Pregnancy is no easy breeze towards the end but I made it. 

I am so grateful and thankful to God. I had a successful delivery! Our baby girl was born in the evening of June 8th 2018 💗 (Which makes her little over two weeks old from the date of this blog 🙂

MY EPIDURAL WORKED which made such a difference from my first pregnancy. I mean it, the biggest difference ever. Giving birth without all that pain is like a smooth ride with a lot of pressure HOWEVER I still dealt with consequences afterwards because my neck was struck out and strained for a good week! I believe I was pushing my girl out with every muscle in my entire neck. It was awful & I couldn’t even enjoy my kids for the first few days which was awful! Thankfully the pain did go away and It’s back to our regular scheduled program  TIMES TWO!!! 

Ahhh! I have two amazing beautiful children, is this real life?! A Boy & A Girl! What a dream come true. 

I’m so thankful to have Papa Bear & my mother by my side once again. Papa bear was holding my hand like a real champion and once he heard his daughter cry / we all starting crying. I think I was crying during my last push… by the way (pat on my shoulder) under 5 min of pushing, that was it! Definitely a record for me because Jaden was about 15 min. 

& Now we’re back in the comfort of our home. Back to square one while on square two : baby and newborn. Two meals (breastmilk & chicken nuggets) Two diaper changes (Newborn & Pull-ups) Two sleep patterns – the list just goes on. It is more work but it’s an amazing thing I’m doing and I just feel so blessed. 

I will certainly blog about New sister/ Big Brother chapters so stay tuned but just so you know Jaden LOVES his sister just like we do & I’m so happy for that because I was so nervous about how he’ll take a new baby in the house. 

All is well 

😉 

Our home is filled with more love ❤️ 

We Couldn’t be happier. 

Sticky Like Honey.

This is my last blog before the new baby arrives and I couldn’t help but share how my son Jaden has been more clingy to me than ever.

Like glue. Like gum on your shoe. Like honey on stick. Sticky is his latest middle name. I completely understand. Two years of being an only child! All the attention to yourself, & now that’s all changing. He follows me around usually but now it’s at his highest peak. Just how young children hold your leg while you walk, similar to that. He wants to be carried every second everywhere and I can hardly go down the stairs without him asking me for a “Hug” which means carry me mommy.  All the while anyone else like papa bear or his nana who asked him to do something it’s “NO”! it’s all about mommy.

It’s definitely bitter sweet for both of us but I know everything will be alright after all his new best friend is on the way. His constant new buddy, someone who can eventually chase him around and he chases back. Read with, watch cartoons with, go on walks with etc etc endless activities. I myself already know all the places I want to take them both after my much needed after birth rest.

Children are so amazing because even though he’s seen my belly grow from nothing to a big, big ball, his whole energy can feel the arrival. I thought it’s because of the baby bottles and toys here and there but it’s just the energy. I’m very big on energy as an adult I can only imagine how children feel energy themselves.

My hospital bag is packed and I’m definitely ready for this pregnancy to end by the grace of God, safe and healthy. I can’t wait to have a new bundle in my arms and I especially can’t wait to see my children’s amazing bond grow before my eyes.

All will be well. I claim it and I thank God for my growing family 🙂

Preparing for two while there’s one……🌸It’s a girl🌸

Two years into being a mommy to my best buddy in the world my son Jaden. Papa Bear & I are expecting once again. 

🌸IT’S A GIRL🌸 !!! 

Wow! I can’t even believe this is happening. So many emotions. Is this real? Can I handle two kids? I’m still learning with Jaden & now we’re throwing in another whole child… just wow. 

The journey has been tough but magical at the same time. The beginning was very rough. Finding out I was pregnant again happened with my big sister Geraldine via FaceTime. I told her “my period hasn’t shown up yet & I have a test upstairs but it’s old” … “Go and get it and go buy another one so we can double check” She said. “OK” (20/30 min later) CONFIRMED! I am indeed pregnant. My sister was so excited and I kept on saying “oh my gosh, what do I do. Should I tell papa bear now or later.” Eventually I told him with giggles which he didn’t find funny at all but me laughing was the only way I could cope and tell him. His own emotions were all over the place. Initially he wasn’t in the best mood because he said “are we ready again?” And all I could say was “I don’t know”! 

Needless to say the next few weeks were very intense and confusing for both of us. I don’t believe in abortions but it was also so early that the fetus is barely formed. I went to the doctor to know my options and again abortion was brought up but also time had gone by going from when I found out to “you’re six weeks in” after a lot of prayer and faith – WE DEFINITELY MADE THE RIGHT DECISION. We are having the baby because God makes no mistakes. 

(Fast forward) all is well, baby girl is growing, emotions are up and down. My first trimester was a hot mess just like with Jaden. Sick like a dog, a lot of crying – not being able to brush my teeth without gagging and just praying I make to the second trimester where I can finally be happy and eat my life away. FINALLY … I get there. 

Trimester two. Bring out the credit card. Baby shopping, ordering this and that. “Oh this is cute and this and this” such a difference shopping for boys and girls. I love all the shorts and polos for my son but seeing the mini swimwear and dresses after paying attention to them got me looking forward to finally meeting this baby girl. I never paid attention to anything girl ever but now my eyes are literally moving at a 50-50 pace because I’m thinking “what can I get for her and what can I get for Jaden” it’s actually fun but it’s also breaking our wallets more 😅 

Now, since I know there’s an new baby on the way, the biggest task is getting Jaden to understand what is going on. As my bump gets bigger I also try to tell him “baby baby” “kiss baby” “baby sister” some days he’ll kiss the belly and some days he’ll smack the belly. I don’t know if he gets it but he’s been more clingy than ever and he’s noticed little baby toys around the house all of sudden. He knows he’s too big for the toys because he’s advanced. They are still appealing for him but when he tries to throw the “crawling ball” and I say no no! He’s confused in why is mommy telling me to roll this ball and not throw it. Children are very smart. I just know his vibes feel that something is coming. 

As a mom to be of two my goal is to split myself in half! I don’t even know how I’ll deal with it and of course I’ll blog about this experience when baby girl arrives. I just want to be amazing to both of them but Jaden is my best friend, my go to, my play buddy – how am I suppose to do this with two kids. I’ve asked mother’s of two and they said they felt the same way but once the second arrives everything just fell into perfect place and everyone is happy so I pray it’s the same for me. I’ll be so devastated if my little guy feels a certain way about his baby sister or if he feels neglected. I already know when she’s born – he’s taking a full week off school to see her every second and I can spend time with them both. Luckily newborns don’t do much but feed & sleep but even then I need Jaden to see that she’s here to stay. I’ve seen him with other babies and he’s done great so I don’t doubt he’ll love his sister and they’ll be best buddies forever especially as she gets older. Jokingly I’m prepared for his slaps because when he sees her on my breasts which once belonged just to him, he might put up a fight 😂  besides the general talks of what’s on the way, I’ve also tried to get him to understand with pictures and stories. I ordered him a personalized big brother book which hopefully will help also. His name and face are in it and it describes all the responsibility a big brother has! I love online. You can find everything. He’s had personalized books in the past and he learned very fast from them. 

The final countdown has begun. Less than a month to go and my big boy toddler love of my life Jaden will no longer be a single child. He’s had a great time. He’s always going to be my best buddy and I believe this is such a great experience not just for him but for papa bear and I. Our family is expanding. We’ve been married for one year & I see the future being bright.

I thank God for everything & I pray I get continued strength to keep being a better mom to my children. It really takes a village to raise a child and I’m thankful for the advice and help I’ve got along the way but I’m very proud of myself because I went from knowing nothing to mothering two & seeing how well my son is growing and learning before my eyes, I’ve been doing something right. 

Cheers to the next chapter 🥂 

Toddler VS Toothbrush

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Brushing teeth! Brushing little toddler teeth, who would have thought it’d be such a pain.

My son loves the brushing teeth song on tv, he even copies the movements with his little finger so why oh why can’t you do it for real? *Sigh* I’ve tried my best to make it a fun activity even to show him how I do it but he simply refuses. Brushing teeth has become a battle for me and the only way I manage it is if I force him by me holding his mouth open and quickly brushing up and down with squealing and crying 😢 “Nothing to cry about Jaden! You have to do it” while he looks at me with his sad puppy eyes.

The days he finally wants hold on to the toothbrush and asks for toothpaste, what does he do… swallows it up, sucks the brush around and puts the toothbrush right back down.

At this point, I’m about done with this game but of course I can’t  give up my little guy because I know eventually he’ll get it. In the mean time I have asked for advice from three people and here was their  solutions:

1.  It’s time to go back to the AFRICAN ROOTS! Cotton wool with toothpaste. Suggestion from papa bear. He said “That’s how it used to get done for us, and it worked”

2. Buy a mini battery operated toothbrush which he can hold and it’ll seem fun – this suggestion came from my son’s grandpa.

3. Sing a song. A suggestion from my cousin Angela whose toothbrush song for her boys is “The Ants go marching one by one” – she also expressed how it’s still a challenge for her but her lovely boys are getting it and I’m sure the song is a bonus because now they associate the tune with TOOTHBRUSHING.

I will try each of these methods and hopefully I can get my little toddler to finally cooperate. We really need this to work because his little breath is starting to stank especially after little naps and in the morning, sheesh! Lol he’s lucky I love him if not I’d never stand for it 😂😂😂

Luckily for me, no cavities in sight just yet. “COME ON JADEN, you can do it”

Have you got any methods of your own in your households moms and Dads? Please share.

Jaden is Two 🎉 I threw the birthday party at home & I survived!!!

My baby boy toddler is finally two years old! I thank God for his life. 

Seeing as we just had a fantastic family vacation in Florida, I didn’t feel the need to rent anywhere for a celebration with friends and family so I decided to through the party at our home… oh my gosh! The stress, the panic. 

You never really know what you’re getting into until you have to get all the details together… from the cake to the drinks and food & don’t forget the cooler and Ice & the decorations and make sure there’s enough this and that & some of that 😅

This party wasn’t just for one but for two amazing boys, my son and my close friend Adeline’s son also – Jaden turned 2 & Johnny turned 5 – The theme of the party was Pj Masks, so you can image how the superhero kids filled the house. I’m so thankful that it’s a hit Disney cartoon show because finding decorations was a breeze, setting up the decorations, that was a lot. 

You don’t think you have a lot until you have to tape everything up and some of it falls off + I have an excited toddler wanting to touch everything. Placement is key. Children’s corner, adult corner, what toys are appropriate and safe for all the kids (parenting tip – remove all the small stuff and keep all the big stuff and puzzles) that’s what I did plus we had some fun fun balls, a basketball hoop and of course the hit of the party the “little tikes” slide. 

When guests started arriving we had enough of everything & I was so happy to see how all the kids had such a great time right away, after all it is for them. The kiddie table had delicious snacks and fruit so there definitely no worries over there. Music was playing & it definitely has the kids on there feet 😬

It’s funny when you have to throw something, the time just flys ✈️ by. I honestly didn’t think I’d make it in time because one minute it’s Monday and boom it’s PARTY DAY!! But I survived, I made it through & everything was a huge success! 

My son got some wonderful toys which he enjoyed the next day and still does & with all that I did to set up, cleaning up wasn’t half bad. My mom taught me at a young age, clean up right away because the next day you can relax!!! IT’S THE TRUTH! I woke up and all I had to deal with was extra food – which wasn’t an issue because we just ate it up throughout the day.

Parents are really super hero’s in disguise!!! Kudos to all of us 😉 although they might not acknowledge it right away, are children are so thankful for these moments we create for them. 

 

“I need a break. We need to put him in school!”

That time has come. Faster than I ever thought it would. Day care. It needed to happen, as I mentioned last week Papa bear and I are dealing with the  troublesome two stage, I needed the break. It took some time because I wanted our son to start before two and he said “NO, let’s wait till after two” but I just couldn’t wait any longer! Of course I love my little man around me but sometimes space is necessary. I needed time to rest (for good reasons) time to catch up on house chores and even clean his toy area properly. Different things. You’ll be surprised how much you can get down with your little one away. Even if I wasn’t resting, I could just enjoy some Mommy time and I have no regrets 🙂

I think as a first time Mom, I did well putting my son in school – it was sad hearing him cry every time I’d leave but it’s temporary time and temporary tears. I like the teachers in the school and I’d observed them when I visit and get to know them so I’m fully aware who is teaching him. The only concern I have is feeding times. I know my son is a picky eater and even though the amount is written down of what and how much he ate, as a parent you really never know that’s why I pack him a  few of his favorite things on the side just incase. It makes me feel at ease.

I enjoy the fact that he’s made new friends and can learn how to interact with others even more than before & learn at a different pace. I’ve done well teaching him in the meantime and learning never stops in our household but it’s great to know he’s learning in two places and from others as well.

The downside of day care is IT’S so expensive oh my gosh! I never knew. Parents don’t talk about this. You have to do your research and find out which school will fit you best and when you do, be prepared for some crazy fees – it’s quite annoying seeing as some of the kids are so small and it takes such a huge chunk out of your finances week after week or bi-weekly or monthly if you choose. In this situation you really can’t have your cake and eat it too because if you don’t  want to pay well – your kiddie stays at home 😩  sorry !!

All in all – Day care for me is win and let me tell you parents, THERE’S NOTHING LIKE SEEING THAT PRICELESS SMILE AND GETTING A LOVED FILLED HUG WHEN YOU PICK THEM UP AFTER SCHOOL ❤️

 

 

Back like we never left :)

Happy 2018 parents and readers. I know I’ve been away for quite some time but HELLO I’m dealing with TROUBLESOME TWO! save meeeeee.

So much development has happened before my eyes! My little guy (who has a personality out of this world) I’ve come to learn – has grown up faster, stronger, smarter and it’s just incredible.

His second birthday is just two months away but I meant what I said – trouble trouble has approached since last year – I don’t blame him. A whole new world of exploration, a whole new world of “Jaden,
Mommy said NO!” Which in his little ears means “Jaden, Mommy said YES!”

He’s wired like a cat playing with a ball of yarn, he’s so focused on whatever he desires and suddenly he can stop and focus on something else.

He’s learning how to speak which is great! New words every single day which is wonderful – “Mama and Dada” is all fun for a while but then you really want to communicate with your child and it’s so exciting when he points out and says words – whether self taught by listening or hearing it from me or a book or maybe even SCHOOL (Yup, he’s in school – another blog for another day) I just love it.

What’s even more amazing is the ability to remember. I’ve taught him something once and boom he’s doing it or saying it  – he knows so many songs, and he’ll hum them in his own way but I know exactly what he’s singing and I’ll join in most of the time with the words so he knows I’m listening. My favorite is his ability to clean up his water/juice messes. If he happens to pour some on the floor, he’ll look up at me and raise his hand up asking for a paper towel or cloth and once I hand it to him, he starts wiping away!!! You’re never too young to start cleaning early so I’m proud he takes up his responsibilty (now if I can only get him to pack his toys in Chest) lol funny right, kids know what clean up is but choose what they will clean up. I’ll let it slide for a little while longer but then “Clean up, clean up everybody- everywhere” will take proper effect.

Time really does fly… so new parents with newborn babies ENJOY EVERY SECOND. I did but I also feel like so much was so new to me you miss moments like cuddling your newborn.

I hardly remember holding my son but when I see the millions of pictures I took I somehow remember.

The journey of two has almost begun and bravo to me (If I may) as a first time Mommy to reach this milestone and kudos to every other mom out there too. It’s not easy and achhhhh so many countless meltdowns but I’m still here doing the dang thing (like I have a choice) lol !!!!!

It’s a hard KNOCK life

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My little guys development has been excellent. I’m so proud of his learning skills. He recognizing so many things. He loves to talk and say words we have learned together which is amazing BUT sometimes I’m worried they’ll all go away (God forbid) – why do I say this?! HEAD BANGING 😩😔

I have no idea where this nonsense started from but it’s now the absolute worst! I haven’t spoken to his doctor about it yet because I’ve been analyzing the behavior on my own.

I’ve noticed he does it when he doesn’t get his way. When he’s voicing out his frustration without words. When I leave the room or rather when I shut the door and he can’t come in. Achhh it’s awful “bang bang bang” against the wall! I try my best not to lose my temper but it’s almost impossible. Why would I want my baby boy knocking his head… a simple “Stop Jaden, that’s enough” is never enough. I literally have to bring out his behavior stick and he realizes that’s a No no! Discipline is very important in our home, heck I grew up with it from my mother and I turned our decent lol so I’m not going to bend for my son either (ps. We are Africans and that’s what we do so get the judgemental thoughts out of your mind right now)

anyways… I did some research online and just like my observation it’s a tantrum thing. Some of the deeper reasons were linked to development disorders but I definitely don’t believe it’s  that because My son is a happy kid thus far (learning, interacting, talking, not shy) etc  regardless this behavior HAS to stop and I’ll do whatever it takes.

I will bring it up with his doctor  the next time we are in the office but I just pray it’s an annoying faze that will go away soon.

Have any of you parents experienced this nightmare? Please share & your methods.

Mission failed :(

1 year going on 5 months and this little boy is still drawn to my breasts honestly sucking nothing :/ I can tell because nothing is going on as far as tenderness on my own part.

Truth be told I’ve turned into my son’s personal pacifier. I never believed in using dummies but now I feel like I misjudged my decisions. I’m definitely buying 50 for the next little love in my life.

I was doing well in the beginning but Jaden unfortunately fell sick on one of our travel adventures to West Africa (Ghana) he wasn’t eating or drinking and he was weak. Allthough he was doing well on his discipline, when this happened my whole plan faded away.

To make a long blog short, I failed. Yes  there are still amazing benefits for him while he still drinks but I have to start all over again, or a new approach.

He’s starting to school soon – hopefully that’ll be my 🔑!!

 

Handful & Handsome

I haven’t even reached “Troublesome two’s” and my son is sooooo much work sometimes I can’t even believe how papa bear and I are doing it.

These children really have a mind of their own, of course they do though… it’s development right before our eyes every single day which I do love HOWEVER, my son actually knows how to test us.

When I tell my son “NO” he smiles and after the third “NO” he’ll stop whatever it is he’s doing. When his father says “NO” he does what his father is having a hard time with, he screams at the top of his lungs in his high-pitched toddler voice. I can’t believe it when I hear it! That scream will drive anyone off the wall, my motherly ears have become used to it but it is annoying especially when we are out in public. Our son and this scream go hand in hand even his Aunty Geraldine (my elder sister) has experienced it and she’s in for more improved scream than the last one she heard lol

I can’t believe this small boy knows exactly what he is doing. As a parents we know children love to throw things down especially from their high chair. They keep on doing this because they are so fascinated with the drop and the noise and the parent reaction. They just don’t stop but what can I do, it’s worse when it’s feeding time. My son likes to eat by himself now which is great, he uses his hands and shoves as much food in his mouth as he can but the mess!!!! Golly-gosh it’s a whole lot of work. Of course a toddler can’t eat clean just yet but sometimes he takes his toy throwing technique and uses it with his food. He’ll throw it down and eat and laugh and play and then he’ll throw the whole bowl down when he’s done and will scream or make some loud gesture in order for me to take him out of his high chair.

Another frustrating thing my son does is jump on the couch 😡 Sometimes I wish I could remove our whole couch all together, I blame his father for this. When he was learning how to stand papa bear would put him on the couch for a few second then put him down but now that he’s fully mobile omgoodness – it’s like a nightmare accident waiting to happen. Our son will climb the couch, stand up and bounce on it… I’m always so frantic with this. He seems to know what he’s doing and he seems to know  The wooden floor is but he just won’t stop jumping, even when I say get down! It’s enough!… He just keeps on going and once again smiles and laughs.

Nobody can tell me these kids don’t know what they are doing. They know very dang well with their cheeky smiles.

the list can go on and I’m sure other parents can relate to some of Jaden’s traits and other ones.

With all these different things he does, my son is adorable  and cute and handsome and it makes it so hard to discipline him at times because he’s mastered his puppy eyes and crocodile tears which still get to me. He knows how to pull out the water works in seconds and I feel bad but discipline is more than necessary because all though he’s still developing as a parent you have to let your children know who is the boss. As papa bear says, our son is a “noise maker.” He always wants to be heard one way or the other but I’m sure this is normal.

Having a child, I’ve mastered patients more than I ever have but It’s constant progress, I tell this to papa bear too but men and women (Mom’s and dad’s) are totally different. Women can put up with way more in my own opinion, at least at this young age. What matters is that not only  One parent is bad, but both have “bad and good cop” moments.

All I know is that I’m bracing myself for chapter two aka troublesome two’s and in the words of Game of Thrones, “winter is coming”

Mother VS Grandmother

It’s no surprise that our babies will make us women want to be the best at everything we do for them. It’s natural instinct that allows us to nurture the right way as if we knew how to be a parent already (which we don’t)

It’s funny how grandmothers always seem to have the magic touch for everything baby. Did you notice that ?!

It’s like there’s a grandmother handbook. it’s filled with tips and tricks and advice you may want to hear and opinions you may not. Of course they are experienced because most of the time they’ve done the baby thing years ago and know how to handle certain things but isn’t it just amazing how that actually works.

In my case, my son is attached to my hip. Recently my elder sister and her man looked after him while I enjoyed a much needed night out and she told me that getting Jaden to sleep was extremely difficult because he wanted his breastmilk and mommy… mommy was nowhere to be found. Eventually he did get some sleep but it made me think the next day as she told me how difficult he was…how on earth does Jaden’s grandma & all the other grandmothers of the world do it????

I’ve gone out plenty of times and I’ve even left Jaden to go on a three day mommy-cation & from her point of view she was just like “he’s fine, he’s slept, he’s not crying or fussy.” hmmmmmm okay that’s great to hear BUT what on earth is GRANDMA doing that SISTER is not doing? that’s why I’m convinced there’s a grandmother handbook. It’s probably a secret book only available for all grandmothers lol

What I think is that with all the experience they have had in the past with countless of children, the babies themselves sense that. They sense a trust that they have with their own mothers. (Don’t worry sister 😉 I trust you with all my heart) …

They know subconsciously that this grandma is my best friend after mommy because all grandmothers spoil their grandchildren so the children are on their best behavior. Again, that’s my own personal opinion but it’s fascinating to me.

I’ve seen it with my own eyes the way Jaden’s grandmother cares for him, feeds him and bathes him… as if it was her first son. Do I take the tips she gives me yes I do but sometimes there is a line that should be drawn where the mother should be encouraged and not judged because she doing certain things her own way. After all, practice makes perfect.

This was one of struggles in the beginning. I felt like I’m was doing my best and wasn’t getting enough praises for it by Jaden’s grandmother. It was always (do it this way and do it that way) and it should have more (well done, good job) remembering this time makes me also wonder to myself why as a new mother do we seek validation from our mothers so deeply?! maybe it’s because hearing you’re doing a good job can go along way or maybe it’s because deep down, you’ve been parenting me and now I’m the parent and I need to know that I’m parenting correctly but it’s a loop whole because there is no straight line to perfect parenting.

As long as are children get educated book smart and “street smart” I believe it’s a job well done in the long run.

All in all, we just have to be thankful for our children’s grandmothers. We might not always see eye to eye but the advice is meaningful and if our little babies can feel so comfortable with how they are around them, as mothers we have to have that same confidence.